Comments on: Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

By: Nikki Backshall

Nikki Backshall — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:53:47 +0000

Yes – very true – huge lists can be really detrimental – am just about to put another post on that goes into multi-tasking!

Nikki

By: Nikki Backshall

Nikki Backshall — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:52:57 +0000

Hi Lucy,

Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment – and I agree, it’s great to know that you’re not alone out there and there are many of us mumpreneurs experiencing very similar feelings,

Nikki

By: Lucy

Lucy — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 20:25:56 +0000

Hi,
I’m a newbie. I think your post is brilliant and captures perfectly the ‘head’ stuff that I struggle with every day. I find it helps to remind myself that when I’ve really gone for things in the past, success has often followed – but it’s so easy to forget that and have a ‘what’s the point?’ or ‘what if they don’t like this?’ attitude – which, of course, has got me absolutely nowhere – every time!

It’s easy to think I’m the only one who feels this way, so thank you.

By: Elaine

Elaine — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:18:05 +0000

mmmmm…. another one who thinks you have read my mind… thanks… I think I need to set some teeny weeny goals so that I can praise myself rather than my never ending lists
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uberVU - social comments — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 02:06:41 +0000

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By: Nikki Backshall

Nikki Backshall — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 08:35:04 +0000

Thanks Lyn, I appreciate your comment

By: Lyn Blackledge

Lyn Blackledge — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 02:49:47 +0000

what a brilliant article.

By: Nikki Backshall

Nikki Backshall — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:47:20 +0000

Oh Julie, I am so sorry – I am having one of those ‘doh!’ moments now! I completely read that wrong and was pondering why that inner voice was only with me for a few years when you never meant that at all

thank you for clarifying – and thank goodness its the weekend, I can see I need the rest

Have a good wkend too,
Nikki

By: Julie Mann

Julie Mann — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:30:15 +0000

Hi Nikki
I agree with you. When I said a few years old I didn’t mean recent i meant very young e.g. 5 years old.
Yes you can train it. In my experience once you start spotting that ‘inner critic/saboteur/inner child’ whatever you want to call it, you’ll find it’s everywhere and it impacts all areas, sometimes in little ways that are hardly visible to the naked eye…..
I think our journey is working with it for a lifetime, so we can let ourselves off the hook for not being ‘perfect’ (whatever that means!)
Have a lovely weekend.
Best wishes
Julie Mann
Julie Mann´s last blog ..Dealing with stress…..

By: Nikki Backshall

Nikki Backshall — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:51:37 +0000

Thanks for your comment Julie – interesting points!

I agree about the ‘inner voice’ trying to keep us safe and in some cases we need to listen to our inner voice for that reason – but I’m not convinced my inner voice is only a few years old, I think mine has been nagging at me for years….

I think you can ‘train’ yourself almost to the point that the ‘voice’ only appears at the very times it is needed (times of danger etc) and then pretty much supress it when it is preventing you from moving forward in your life. That is certainly something that intrigues me and what I am working on right now.

Thanks again for your comment,
Nikki

By: Julie Mann

Julie Mann — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 12:41:39 +0000

It’s great to be reminded to celebrate who we are rather than criticize ourselves for ‘not matching up’. It takes practice though, practice, practice, practice. Our inner saboteur is always waiting for an opportunity to stop us and make us think twice about a perceived ‘risk’. Our saboteur is very young you see, maybe only a few years old. What has happened more often than not, is that as a result of a past experience, it made some decisions so that ‘that’ wouldn’t happen again, and consequently adopted some ‘limiting beliefs’. It (our inner child) didn’t really have the resources to be powerful then but it definitely can have power over us now! Notice when your inner child is trying to run the show! All it wants to do is keep you safe, avoiding anything that might make you look stupid or get hurt!
It’s only as an adult, when we challenge these beliefs and work with them so that we can let them go and adopt some new ones, beliefs that are much more inspiring and enlivening.
So, when your saboteur pops up, say thank you and make a new choice, one that supports your growth and happiness!
Julie Mann Habitfixer
Julie Mann´s last blog ..Dealing with stress…..

By: Nikki Backshall

Nikki Backshall — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:54:58 +0000

Thanks for the comment Ann – yes, you’ve said that on previous articles and content I’ve written. I guess sometimes it takes someone else to formulate the words and feelings inside us. I have many blogs that i visit who help me to get some clarification on my life – and it’s great to ‘pass the love’ on

By: Nikki Backshall

Nikki Backshall — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:53:27 +0000

Funny you should say that ali, I’ve just picked up a book to read that is called ‘Life is Too F***ing Short’ by Janet Street Porter – I think you might enjoy it too, will let you know what it is like when I’ve finished it.

By: Ann Williams-Maughan

Ann Williams-Maughan — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 23:25:17 +0000

I’m sure I have said this before but just for the record I’ll say it again. When I read Niiki’s blogs/posts it’s like she has crawled inside my mind. She says the things I’m only thinking. Thinking because I am in that place of self saborage. But I’m working on my downfalls, thorugh inspiraltional posts like this. So from the bottom of my heart I owe alot to a women I’ve never even met. Thank You.

By: Ali

Ali — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 19:51:11 +0000

Thanks for this positive article to help us Mums keep going when we have temporarily lost our mojo! There have been times when I have purposely ‘set’ my brain to ‘not care’ when I hear a negative comment, or more more often ‘delete’. If I had listened to much of the advice and comments I received at the beginning I would not have got very far at all. Best thought when negativity holds me back… “Life is too short!”
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