Do We Get What We Ask For?

Be Honest – And Think About It…

Its a concept that many people struggle to get their heads around because there is so much bad stuff happening – we surely don’t ask for that?

I can’t tell you why there are natural disasters that take peoples lives or why there is poverty and famine, but how we react and deal with situations is how we shape our futures.

Did I Ask For My Marriage to End?

It’s a tough one because I love my husband dearly and I genuinely ‘thought’ we had a strong marriage, so to find that I was wrong was an initial shocker.

However, now that the dust has settled and I have been able to think about it all, I can see that this had to happen. And although I didn’t outrightly ask for it as such, it will enable me to accomplish many, many things that I planned to do – but could never understand how I would all the time I was in a marriage.

Let me clarify this a little bit better; I have about three businesses that I am involved in from the ground up, I am often being approached for advice, consultation or client work and I know that these businesses will be highly successful.

This isn’t because I am being arrogant, it’s because I have learned my craft and thoroughly researched my market – but all the time I was in a marriage, I was struggling to ‘do it all’.

As a mum, I wanted to spend time with my children, as a wife I wanted to spend time with my husband and as an entrepreneur I needed and wanted to spend time on my business ventures – something had to give. And whilst I never in a million years would have chosen a marriage break up, I can clearly see why it happened – I asked for it!

The Power of Passion

When you want something so badly and you work hard and you ‘know’ that it is going to happen – then it will. My projections of building a business that will enable other women to maximise their own businesses is crystal clear in my mind. There is no ‘If’ there is only ‘When’.

When you truly know in your heart that it will happen, you dont question the ‘how’ you just keep moving forwards towards your goal and the answers will appear. For me it was my situation at home that had to change. To be able to spend time on everything, I was running myself ragged and getting nowhere fast. Now my quality of life has improved exponentially.

Sound weird?

One minute I am waxing lyrical about loving my husband and the next I’m shrugging my shoulders and saying ‘oh well’? It’s not quite like that – but I am fully focused on the positive aspects that this new stage in my life is going to bring – and I am excited about it.

My days are now structured, I have time to sit down each morning with my children and have breakfast with them before making their packed lunches. When they come home from school, I’m not dashing upstairs to do some work, make calls or answer emails – I am there for them. We sit and eat dinner together each evening and I am available to them for homework and cuddles until I put my youngest to bed at 7.30pm. I then work!

Before, I would be cooking a second dinner for my husband and then we’d spend some time together, which made it late to work and made me tired the next day – this was an ongoing process. We never sat down and had breakfast together during the week as we were up later and there seemed to be so many of us rushing about, ironing shirts, making lunches and cups of tea, trying to get in the bathroom and being stressed with each other. Plus many other niggly nuances that you don’t even need to hear about.

The point is, we were all a bit stressed out, under each others feet and maybe, if we had recognised what was going on, it could have been rectified, but we didn’t so now the circumstances have changed.

The Power of Projection

I know what I am going to achieve and I have been very clearly projecting those thoughts ‘out there’ for many months. When I think about my ‘vision’ it really is very focused on building a successful business to help other women and building a stable future for my children. I ‘assumed’ my husband would be a part of it, but ironically, I never really ‘pictured’ him in it.

So when I THINK about what has happened, I have to be completely honest and say that I probably did ask for this, albeit it was subconciously, but the universe will give you what you ask for. It will move and change your course for you to achieve your dreams and if that means that you have to accept and embrace things that you never imagined would ever happen – then go with it and never lose sight of your goals.

Moving Forward

We are on the brink of welcoming a new little family member to our home and we are very excited. She is called Annie and she is arriving next Tuesday so we’ve been busy buying cute little puppy things and preparing for her to join us. The children are so excited, I think this little bundle is going to be very happy with us in our new harmonious home!

And for the record – I always wanted a dog, but my husband never did. In my future, I always picture a dog…..

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